Top 10 Indian Wedding Problems and Solutions

Top 10 Indian wedding problems and solutions

Weddings are the most enjoyable event if you belong to an Indian family. It brings all relatives under one roof. This event is not only important for the bride, groom, their siblings, and parents but also for all the uncles and aunties (chacha, mama, phopho, dadi etc) of the family. On the one hand, Indian weddings are truly the most enjoyable event, it unites the family but on the other hand, it has many problems. It is important to cope with typical wedding problems efficiently to “save” your big day. I’m discussing some problems which we usually face in weddings along with their solutions.

1. Lengthy guest list:

Indian families usually want to invite everyone they know. It is the most common wedding problem in our society. Despite focusing on the wedding budget, the bride, groom, their parents, and siblings not only invite the guests but also their other family members like cousins, uncles, and aunties etc invite their friends to enjoy the party. It is very difficult to cut down the guest list once relatives show their interest in inviting them.

       Solution:

It is very important to invite guests according to your venue’s capacity and budget. Its simple solution is, tell your relatives in advance or immediately after finalizing the wedding date that we will invite only close family members because we want to make it entirely a family function. By doing so, relatives won’t even think of inviting their guests.

2. Improper wedding budget:

We may define the budget for the wedding but we don’t follow it strictly. This may result in severe trouble. For example, if we reserve our 20% budget on lighting decoration and increase it to 30%, just to décor with expensive LED lights, then other important things like jewelry, dresses venue charges etc will be compromised. In the end, you have to manage more amount or compromise on less. This is very disturbing.

      Solution:

Stick to your budget and it’s better to look for quality but avoid extravagance. While estimating your budget keep the latest charges in mind to avoid future trouble.

3. Annoyed relatives:

It is quite embarrassing to discuss but it’s the genuine Indian wedding problem. If you are not having any annoyed relatives then you are very lucky. At weddings especially we try to satisfy our displeased close relatives. And I guess it is a good thing but if they stay annoyed whole event will be affected.

       Solution:      

 Invite your annoyed relatives open-heartedly, regardless of whatever they’ve done. Try to involve senior family members to resolve the clash. There are many chances that everything will be fine. But if they stay unpleased just ignore them and enjoy the function because you’ve fulfilled your responsibility.

4. Too much advices for bride/ groom:

It mostly happens when all family members unite before the wedding day, they start advising and sharing their personal experiences with the bride/ groom. Some might have bad after-marriage experiences, but ultimately this ends up confusing him/ her especially when they are having an arranged marriage. This may be a good thing to tell all the ups and downs but time and situation matter a lot.

        Solution:

Let the bride/ groom enjoy their pre-wedding ceremonies. It’s the responsibility of elders to advise them but only in a positive way. For the bride/ groom, if someone shares their negative experiences just ignore them and enjoy, not everyone has the same life.

5. Noisy children:

This is very common in Indian weddings. People who bring their small children create a lot of disturbance. We can’t say that children are not allowed and we silently bother them. This is unfair to the wedding management team.

       Solution:

 It’s better to make a small play place bit distant from hall, many hotels provide this facility. If it’s not possible, ask your ushers to seat people with children at the back. So whenever any child makes noise parents can easily go out and instruct him/ her.

6. Food fighting:

This is the most embarrassing part of almost every Indian wedding. Whenever the lids from food are put aside everyone runs to have as much food as they can. By doing so, much food gets wasted. However, our society is civilized but still, this trend exists.

       Solution:

Ask the waiters to serve food on the table, this may require more waiters but you can avoid food wastage. Ask your guests to stay at their tables and they will be served there.

7. Unattended angry guests:

No matter how much you put effort into all the guests, still some people leave the function angrily. They might feel that you’ve not given them importance; this is not an unusual thing in Indian weddings.

      Solution:

Though it is very difficult to please everyone still you can try. The first thing is to invite a limited number of guests as discussed earlier. And the second thing is, you can ask your close relatives to accompany you in attending the guests. If some guests are left unconsciously unattended by you, your relatives will attend them.

The above problems are discussed according to typical Indian weddings; these are not personally targeted to any group of people. Hope the solutions will help you out in managing your wedding efficiently.

    8. Stress

Stress is a common issue that most couples will face at least once in their relationship. Various situations can cause stress, such as financial troubles, family dynamics, mental health struggles, or illness. Financial stress can occur when a spouse loses their job or faces a demotion. Family-related stress might involve conflicts with children, issues with in-laws, or other family matters. Different factors can trigger stress, and how it is managed can either alleviate or exacerbate the problem.

             Solution:

Stress within a relationship needs to be managed effectively, or it can severely damage the bond between partners. One way to address this is through open and honest communication, where both partners listen and express their concerns calmly. If talking does not help, engaging in stress-relieving activities like yoga or meditation might be beneficial, helping both partners cope better with stress.

    9. Communication Problems

Communication in a relationship involves both verbal and non-verbal cues, making it possible for misunderstandings to arise even between people who have known each other for a long time. Men and women often communicate differently, and poor communication habits can develop if not addressed, potentially jeopardizing the relationship. Healthy communication is essential for a successful marriage.

        Solution:

To improve communication, couples need to be mindful and make a conscious effort to break negative patterns. By learning and practicing healthy communication techniques, such as active listening, expressing thoughts clearly, and using positive body language, both partners can enhance their relationship and foster a deeper connection.

    10. Financial Issues

Financial problems are a common cause of tension in marriages. Whether managing a joint account or keeping finances separate, money can create significant stress if not handled properly. It is crucial for couples to openly discuss financial issues and work together towards shared financial goals.

        Solution:

Handling financial issues requires careful and honest conversations. Couples should develop a financial plan that aligns with their goals and regularly check in with each other to ensure they stay on track. If there are deviations from the plan, discussing the reasons openly can help maintain trust and prevent misunderstandings.

FAQs

Q. How much should you spend on a wedding planner?
Ans. The amount you should spend on a wedding planner depends entirely on your overall budget. An elegant wedding may cost around Rs. 5 lakhs, while a more lavish celebration could run up to approximately Rs. 20 lakhs or more.

Q. Do wedding planners save you money?
Ans. Yes, wedding planners can save you money by efficiently planning, strategizing, and organizing the event. They have extensive networks and contacts that most people don’t, which can lead to discounts and deals. This saves both money and time in the long run.

Q. Do wedding planners decorate?
Ans. Yes, wedding planners do much more than just decorate. Full-service wedding planners help with everything from selecting color palettes, themes, and materials to managing all aesthetic aspects to ensure the entire event has a cohesive look and feel.

Q. How much does a good Indian wedding cost?
Ans. The cost of an Indian wedding can vary greatly, ranging from Rs. 5 lakhs to Rs. 10 crores. This wide range depends on factors like the wedding destination, choice of florists, caterers, planners, musicians, and many other elements.